Tips & Ideas for Creating a Wedding Registry

Since our wedding, it has been a joy to watch the Lord bring several other couples together in marriage, and be able to send gifts to them as our own household now! Knowing what an unspeakable blessing so many dear ones’ generosity to us was as we started out, it is always fun to browse through registries and pick out “the perfect thing” for those we love as they too start their lives together.

Often though, I have been very surprised at what I have seen. Perhaps these different couples were already well set up for their new home, and so really had very few needs, but the most common theme I have seen is registries that were surprisingly tiny (or had a very odd selection of items… more on that later)! This, along with the fact that multiple people have been asking questions about the delights of wedding preparations recently, made me get excited about it all over again! Hopefully the thoughts below (listed in no particular order) will be of use to you if you are setting up a wedding registry, or even creating a baby shower or other type of list! All credit goes to my mom, sisters, Aunt Miriam, and many others from whom we learned when doing ours… and from whom I am still learning! Enjoy!

  • Put at least one item on your registry for every person that you invite to your wedding. Not every family, and not everyone that rsvp’s positively… EVERY PERSON YOU INVITE. If you invite 200 guests, then make sure there is a minimum of 200 items. This will help ensure a multitude of options for those desiring to give to you. Remember that even those who cannot attend the wedding will still often send a gift.
  • That last sentence brings up the next thought: DISMISS the idea that lots of items means you are greedy or expecting everything that is on the list. I too struggled with this… it seemed so selfish to load our registry down with so many things, but in reality (and I see this more every time I go to purchase for someone else!) it is actually kinder to have lots of options for them to choose from. You may or may not receive anywhere close to all that you put on, but the more you have on there the easier it is for others to find something they really want to send you. (Keep in mind too that the store you register with often gives a discount to you for any item you don’t receive, that you would still like to purchase for yourselves after the wedding.)
  • Have a TON of variety in price range! From $1-2 kitchen gadgets, to the $500 mixer you have always dreamed of and everything in between, the more variety you have, the better. This allows your rich dentist uncle to give a gift he is really happy about, but also allows for several smaller purchases by the large family who loves you dearly but cannot afford anything over $15. Obviously there will probably be more of the cheaper items, and that is great, but don’t be afraid to put the big ones on too.
  • Plan ahead and think about how you hope to decorate your future home, even if you don’t know exactly where you will be living yet; this will help tremendously when selecting items that are color/style-specific. Recently someone asked me where I obtained some something in our home (if I remember correctly it matched our gray and yellow kitchen or coral laundry room perfectly), and my response was that ___ gave it to us from our registry! They looked at me, shocked – “You knew your colors before you registered?!” Yes (and we did not know what our apartment/house would be like until 3-4 weeks before the wedding)! You should too. 🙂 Or at least have a good idea for the main areas (kitchen, living room, master bedroom, master bathroom).
  • Think outside the box, and remember to register for more than just the normal homemaking items. Board games, tools (or gift cards to well-known hardware stores), a cooler, camping gear, beach towels, organizational shelving/storage bins, books, essential oils, spices, household paper products, candles, and on and on are all great ideas! For this, we enjoyed using a registry compilation site (like MyRegistry.com), which allowed us to pool items from places where we had set up an actual registry (Bed, Bath, & Beyond or Amazon, for instance), as well as those sites which did not offer one or for which it wasn’t worth it for the small number of items we included (music from the Wilds, a gift card from Lowe’s, etc.).
  • While you are thinking outside the box, give consideration to your givers as well. You may be avid football fans, but packing your registry completely full of team-specific cups and accessories may not be the best idea. 😉 A few of your favorite items might be fine, but be considerate of the thoughts/beliefs/values of those who will be purchasing from your registry, and be sure to have a great supply of general items.
  • If at all possible, compile the bulk of your registry together as a couple. Not only is this a ton of fun, 😉 but it provides an excellent opportunity to learn more of each other’s tastes and preferences, whether that be the kind of toaster you each grew up with, what kind of vacuum cleaner is most cost efficient, or whether or not your travel cups are monogrammed!
  • Again if possible, take your mom, sister, and/or another trusted friend with you to register as well. It worked beautifully for us this way! Even for someone like me who just LOVES thinking through the aspects of operating a home, the process of trying to think of everything can be overwhelming. While Daniel and I were making bigger decisions (dishes, flatware, etc.), my dear Mama and sister were with us and added a ton of the smaller things they knew we needed… they ALSO helped us not get lost in all the choices, remember that we might need more than just one blanket in our house, 🙂 and on and on. Their help was invaluable!!
  • Don’t agonize over decisions. Register with places that have good return policies, and remember that it is perfectly acceptable to return gifts if you need to or change your mind.
  • Finally, remember that each registry is unique. Just like you and your soon-to-be spouse… that is the way the Lord has designed it, and it is beautiful!

Do you have any other thoughts or ideas? Please leave a comment and share them!

Spurgeon on Psalm 127:3

“‘Lo, children are an heritage of the LORD: and the fruit of the womb is his reward, ‘ or a reward from God. He gives children, not as a penalty nor as a burden, but as a favour. They are a token for good if men know how to receive them, and educate them. They are ‘doubtful blessings’ only because we are doubtful persons. Where society is rightly ordered children are regarded, not as an incumbrance, but as an inheritance; and they are received, not with regret, but as a reward. If we are over-crowded in England, and so seem to be embarrassed with too large an increase, we must remember that the Lord does not order us to remain in this narrow island, but would have us fill those boundless regions which wait for the axe and the plough. Yet even here, with all the straits of limited incomes, our best possessions are our own dear offspring, for whom we bless God every day.” – C.H. Spurgeon

Valentine’s Day Dinner Recap

Yes, it’s a bit late… but our second Valentine’s Day together was absolutely wonderful! Marriage is truly a joy, a precious gift from the Lord not to be taken for granted.

In honor of the couples each year, the campus staff young people put together a special themed dinner! This year’s theme was the 1950’s, complete with an authentic burger joint diner and bowling alley! Attendees, of course, were encouraged to dress the part… hilarious. We had a blast, and are so grateful for the hearts of love and service that went into each detail. 

Just before dinner, we also had some fun with a double-date photoshoot with some friends… 😉

“By this shall all men know that ye are my disciples, if ye have love one to another.” John 13:35

Everyday Blessings | 3.22.18

Today I am grateful for:

  • running water, both hot and cold!
  • beautiful walks in the breezy weather
  • times to sing while working in the kitchen
  • iced coffee 
  • photos
  • a peacefully resting little man 
  • my amazingly loving, hardworking husband
  • air conditioning… which normally works 🙂
  • God’s grace during especially busy seasons

“But let all those that put their trust in thee rejoice: let them ever shout for joy, because thou defendest them: let them also that love thy name be joyful in thee. For thou, LORD, wilt bless the righteous; with favour wilt thou compass him as with a shield.” Psalm 5:11-12

Trusting in Him

Happy almost spring-time! The glowing sunlight, vibrant green colors of the grass, and sweetly singing birds remind us that a fresh new season is nearly here! Recently the Lord has been reminding me of the joy, the strength, the beautiful, glorious rest… of TRUSTING in Him. So many precious truths of Scripture, all centered around this thought… may your heart be encouraged today with these verses, as mine has been! <3 

“For the LORD God is a sun and shield: the LORD will give grace and glory: no good thing will he withhold from them that walk uprightly. O LORD of hosts, blessed is the man that trusteth in thee. Psalm 84:11-12

Blessed is the man that trusteth in the LORD, and whose hope the LORD is. For he shall be as a tree planted by the waters, and that spreadeth out her roots by the river, and shall not see when heat cometh, but her leaf shall be green; and shall not be careful in the year of drought, neither shall cease from yielding fruit.” Jeremiah 17:7-8

“Many sorrows shall be to the wicked: but he that trusteth in the LORD, mercy shall compass him about. Psalm 32:10

“Our soul waiteth for the LORD: he is our help and our shield. For our heart shall rejoice in him, because we have trusted in his holy name. Psalm 33: 20-21

 “… for they creid to God in the battle, and he was intreated of them; because they put their trust in him. 1 Chronicles 5:20

And just because… here is my newest favorite picture of my men. 😉 <3 

Purple Princess Photoshoot!

Last weekend I had the joy of taking a few photos for some lovely Purple Princesses that stopped by our house! 😉 Together the girls had hosted a tea party, in honor of one of their birthdays, for all of the little girls here on campus. Their hearts for discipleship and for using this time as a way to encourage young ones in the ways of the Lord, blessed me so much! It was truly a delight to help them capture the memories from this special day.

Thank you, girls, for walking in the ways of our Savior… for seeking Him, trusting Him, and loving Him with all of your hearts, and for allowing His light and joy in you to flow out to so many others! You encourage us!!